As I broach the topic of communication, I am reminded of the words from a popular 90’s R&B tune where the crooner is contemplating what he would say to an unnamed young lady that he is too shy to approach. For those of you music trivia fanatics, I am referring to Tevin Campbell’s hit “Can we talk?” While the title of the song is somewhat misleading since the poor guy doesn’t actually talk to the girl, the refrain of the tune reminds us of a very basic purpose of verbal communication – to provide information. The type of information can be varied, from factual to a more intimate sharing of feelings.
Effective communication is critical to all successful interpersonal relationships. Where there is effective communication, there is an exchange of information which promotes knowledge and understanding. Marriages thrive when there is effective communication, as do families and organizations. Individuals also benefit from being able to communicate their thoughts and feelings to others, particularly when coping with crises or traumatic events. Want to improve your communication skills? Consider the following T.I.P. (though this list is not exhaustive):
Talk openly and honestly. How else will those you are closest to be able to know your thoughts and feelings if you don’t provide them with this information?
Incorporate active listening skills. Listen intently and paraphrase what you heard to demonstrate to the other person that you actually heard what they said.
Practice effective communication daily. As with anything else, practice makes perfect. Use these effective communication tips routinely until you get the hang of it.
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Written by Renita Gabriel, Psy.D. Dr. Gabriel can be found at http://www.breakthroughspsycservices.com
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